Communicating With The Departed Soul

Over the years people have desired to communicate with
the departed.  Many rituals have been used,  money spent
and much anguish from the loved ones of the departed
needing comfort in knowing that the soul of their departed
goes on.  Science and Christianity tells us the search is in
vain.  Yet there is so much evidence that the Paranormal
does exist and functions in and through our lives daily.

Three of the Basics that are used in such efforts to
communicate are the Ouija, Mediums and Seance.  We
have found some articles that explain the whys, how to's
and wherefores.  They may be of benefit or interest to you.

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condemn the use of any of these
Communicating with the Dead
By Lori Lothian

In the movie, What Dreams May Come, Robin Williams
plays a man who dies and attempts to communicate with
his wife in a dramatic scene of automatic writing that
understandably pushes an already frazzled widow over the
edge. And in the classic film Ghost, Whoopie Goldberg
plays a medium for whom spirits must line up in the afterlife
in order to hop in her body and get their message across.

Entertaining as they are, these Hollywood versions of spirit
communication perpetuate the myths that talking to the
dead is a specialist's job and that when the dead do
manage to get a word in edgewise it is through such
theatrics as possessing a person's vocal chords or
pen-holding hand.

Direct Dialing the Dead

In reality, talking to the dead is more like placing a long
distance phone call to a third world country-country-the
connection can be tenuous and static-filled, but in the end it
is as simple as dialing. On the other hand, going to a
medium to talk to dear departed grandma is like placing an
operator-assisted call-call-you only need to resort to that
more expensive option after your own attempts have failed.
Unfortunately, however, people often seek the assistance
of a professional psychic connection before they have even
begun to make their own.

Step One: Dialing Up

The first directive to successful spirit communication may
seem the most obvious: You have to want to make contact.
Fear, guilt, shame and anger can all get in the way of
communing with a loved one who has made the transition
from the physical world. Emotions that run deep often act
as a self-erected unconscious barrier to not only dealing
with grief, but also to making an afterlife connection. When
an aging parent dies, for instance, it often becomes
apparent which sibling has the most unprocessed "stuff"
about that parent. Other siblings will often report dream
visitations while the sibling in angst reports nightmares
instead. On the flip side, sometimes the lack of contact
may also be the spirit itself making a decision that for the
bereaved's best healing, contact may need to wait until a
later date.

Step Two: Putting the Receiver to Your Ear

The next to thing to remember about spirit-communication
is that if you are not listening, you won't hear. Those in spirit
make every effort to get our attention in ways that are
gentle and non-threatening, so much so that these subtle
messages are often missed. Cues can include a ringing in
the ears, a fleeting image of movement in our peripheral
vision and of course, dream appearances and waking

When my deceased grandmother is around me I often
know this by the synchronicities she provides. The symbol
of the star is significant between us, based on an Avon ring
I gave her as a child called A Star Is Born. Whenever she is
hovering, I receive an unmistakable confluence of star
imagery. I recall one week where a friend sent me a silk
scarf with stars all over it, another mailed me an envelope
of foil confetti stars and I saw stars in places as diverse as
TV, billboards and personalized license plates. That week
was an important time for me as I was videotaping a
segment for a TV show and was a basket case of nerves.
The reassurance from my grandmother was just what I
needed to go ahead with calm confidence.

On another occasion, I was in the midst of making an
important decision when she came through with a
thumbs-up vote by synchronicity: three times in only two
days I found myself driving behind a bumper sticker that
read Grace Happens! My grandmother's name, of course,
was Grace.

Every once in a while spirit will make a grand entrance
when perhaps we have been slow to pay attention. One
story that comes to mind is that of a friend whose recently
deceased father made his presence known in an unusual
way. When Audrey's father died, she took home his video
camera and left it on a shelf in her living room. One night as
she and her family sat watching TV, the camera suddenly
began to whir and hum: her father's camera had turned on
by itself. Although Audrey wondered whether her father was
responsible, she became convinced later that same night
when two smoke detectors in the home began beeping the
warning beep associated with a low battery. When she
opened up the detectors, however, she realized there were
no batteries at all inside. Audrey took this as a friendly
safety message from her father who routinely used to
remind the family to keep smoke detectors in working

Step Three: Talking Back

Communication is always a two-way street and it's no
different when chatting with the dead. We can ask for
guidance from the departed by simply thinking it or writing
down our questions in a journal. Answers come through
signs, synchronicities and sometimes dream

When my father died I was not present for his death and
longed to know that his sudden stroke had not been a
terrifying event for him. I also questioned why he chose that
particular time to die. The answer came within weeks of his
death, in a dream visitation. In the dream my father allowed
me to time travel to the scene of his collapse, where I was
able to comfort him as he transitioned. In the same dream, I
asked him why he chose to die. He said: Because I was
tired of worrying. This immediately made sense to me
because my father's worsening Alzheimers had made
simple tasks such as paying bills and taking medicines
impossible for him. Feeling out of control about finances
and his health no doubt worried him greatly and departing
his deteriorating mind would have likely been a relief.

Operator Assistance: Using a Medium

If after trying to make the connection yourself you choose to
seek the services of a medium or psychic, be discerning.
You will want to find someone who has a word-of-mouth
clientele and remember that the medium need not be
famous to be good. Many clairvoyants or psychics will
include spirit communication in a session without ever
referring to their service as mediumship, so don't become
fixated on the séance and medium schtick. Just ask while
making your appointment whether the reader is able to
work with spirit communication should it arise.

When you call for an appointment, also be sure to relate
nothing significant about yourself or the departed you may
wish to contact. During the reading make an effort to keep
facial expressions to a minimum. Don't answer questions
unless the medium has first volunteered information. Be
demanding: require that the communication contain
material that leaves no room for doubt. Hearing the name
or nickname of the departed or being offered a symbol or
memory that only you two share are good barometers of

For example, when my grandmother came to me through a
clairvoyant a few years ago, the first symbol she presented
was that of a ring. This was my definitive clue-when my
grandmother died my mother found the ring I had given her
as a child tucked away in a drawer, still in the original box.
This ring was returned to me and is today the only
possession of my grandmother's that I own. I keep it in a
safe it means that much to me.

When I was doing a reading for a client recently, a woman
in spirit appeared holding a basket in her hands. I relayed
that the deceased woman was about the same age as the
client and that she was distinguished by her creativity while
alive. The message from the spirit was that the client
needed to return to some sort of creativity in her life. The
client then related to me that this must be her departed
sister-in-law with whom she had run a gift-basket business
in addition to her regular job. After her sister-in-law's death,
she had not resumed the business, nor any other creative
business outlet. The symbol of the basket was instrumental
for the client in identifying the spirit and in trusting that the
communication was authentic.

And finally, don't expect that just because you show up for
the party, the spirit of the deceased will attend too. A
medium or psychic cannot extend an invitation or force
someone to appear. Rather the medium is simply a host
waiting for the guests to arrive.

In the end, the best communication is contact that
convinces you without a doubt of the departed person's
presence and that provides healing or closure in some
way. This may mean seeing a professional only because
you may fear your desire to communicate is so great that
your own signs and experiences are your imagination only.
But whether you find yourself at a psychic's door or talking
to a loved one in your sleep, the experience of
communicating with the dead is profoundly life-changing as
for once we remember the truth that we do not die, we
simply move on.

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